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Losing My Beloved Dog – How Do You Say Goodbye to Your Best Friend?

By J S Carrillo

It was a month ago that we had made the decision to put our beloved Maggie, an Australian shepherd mix to “sleep”. This was one of the hardest decisions that we had to make. After 16 years, how do you say goodbye to your best friend? The one that has been there through all the ups and downs in life. All the good, the bad, (and the ugly). The one who went everywhere with you, who loved to listen to you sing (She was tone-deaf) and the one who would just sit and listen when you needed to talk. She was my protector and my nurse when I was sick. She was truly my best friend.

But she was getting old, and arthritis has settled in, and she had lost weight, and started to lose control of her bladder.

In my head I knew what I had to do and so did my husband, but our hearts…WOW, that was another story. It’s not that cut and dry. We did not want to let go… We did not want to lose our beloved dog, but knew it was time. Her quality of life was not good and we had to think of her and not be selfish. (Even though I wanted to). I worried about how our other dog (Ellie, a Border Collie/Queensland healer) would react? Ellie is only 4 and had grown up with Maggie. She had never been on her own without her big sister. Maggie has always been in her life.

This was tough, and I had talked to friends about when they were faced with having to put their dog down… They were not with their dog when it was euthanized, and the only choice they had, was to cremate the dog. They were not given a choice. Then the ashes were given back to them in a Ziploc bag. It was not a good experience for them and the cost of all this was quite expensive.

This was not the experience I wanted. Not only for me, but for Maggie. I wanted to be there. I wanted, to be able to hold her so she wouldn’t be scared. I couldn’t hand her off to strangers, I needed to be there. I also wanted to bury her in the yard. This is where she needed to be. She loved her yard.

So I called a few places and found a place that would let us be there if that is what we wanted. When talking to them on the phone, they also asked if I wanted a back yard burial. I did and yes! I found a place that was going to let me be with her and then take here home. They let me know what the cost was (which was not expensive, especially since I don’t think that they should charge much for a service like this). They said that payment would be done as we came in so that in our grief we did not have to worry about this as we left the clinic and also being in the front among other people.

Now I was OK. For me, it was easier to be able to let go.

On the day we were going to put her down. We went to the clinic and we were brought into a room, we did not have to stay out in the waiting room. Payment was taken care of. They let us know everything that was going to happen, as it is done in 2 stages with 2 shots.

They let us have as much time as we wanted with Maggie. She was relaxed and peaceful. She was in our arms. She felt no pain; she was not anxious or agitated. And when we were ready to say our last goodbye, they did they gave her the 2nd shot. And she was gone. They allowed us to have time alone with her again… we were not rushed or hurried and when we were able to let go, they came to get her. They took her to another room then wrapped her up in a blanket. We took her home, and then buried her in the yard she loved.

My heart broke that day… It was so hard. And of course I cried my eyes out, as I am doing now as I write this. I miss her. But for me…being able to do this the way I wanted made something that was hard, a little easier. My Heart ached a little less.

As a dog owner this is one of the hardest decisions you will ever make. Make sure that you talk to your vet. That when the time comes, you do it the way you want, and to not let anyone tell you otherwise. Do your research and do what is best for you and your best friend.

You will grieve for your dog, but doing what is best for him or her will make the process easier.

As for Maggie

She will forever be in the yard she loved.

I miss my baby girl. She was a Great Dog and my Loving Friend.

J. Carrillo like to write about dogs. She has 2 of her own and shares her experiences with others. Gives her opinion and advice. She writes a blog that celebrates dogs.

You can find out more about J. Carrillo and her blog at http://greatdoglovingfriend.blogspot.com/

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Jun 05, 2012 | 0 | Losing Your Dog

Pet Loss and Funerals

By George V. Tobin

Losing a pet can be very difficult. When a pet dies, you aren’t just losing an animal; you’re losing a friend and a member of your family. It’s especially difficult when that pet has been there for you day in and day out and has shown nothing but affection and loyalty.

Everyone deals with death differently. What is most important to understand is that it is very natural to have feelings of grief, sadness, anger, and guilt. It is also extremely important to remember that you are not alone; many people have experienced the death of a friend or family member and understand the feelings you are having. While we all have these same feelings, everyone expresses them differently. There is certainly no right way to express one’s feelings; what is important is that you are expressing them in one way or another. The worst thing you can do to yourself is to keep your emotions bottled up inside. There is no standard time frame in which people feel these emotions; it might take some a few days to move on and a couple weeks for others.

Some common ways to express emotions, and get closure after losing a pet, are funeral services or spreading your pet’s ashes in their favorite location. Getting closure and accepting the death does not mean forgetting the pet altogether. Many people chose to create memorials, photo books, or write tribute and poems about their pet. The loss of a pet is quite often very difficult to explain to a child, especially if it is their first experience with death. It is very important to include them in the creation of any memorabilia to help them remember all the good times. A pet funeral home can provide the closure your family needs to move on from this loss.

Grief support groups and counseling hot lines are not an uncommon way to express your feelings. Surrounding yourself with people in similar situations can be very therapeutic and remind you that you are not alone. This type of support is especially helpful to individuals that have become depressed and are having trouble accepting the death.

It is very important not to get a new pet too soon. You should always wait until you are ready to fully dedicate yourself to a new long-term relationship before making a commitment. Do not choose a pet with the intent of replacing your old pet as this rarely works out. It is not only unfair to yourself, but the animal as well.

George is the Online Strategy Manager for Simple Machines and Switchfast Technologies. George’s interests include soccer, social media, and podcasts!

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May 05, 2012 | 0 | Losing Your Dog

Pet Burial Vs Cremation – Pros and Cons

By Monica Phillips

The death of a family pet is an event that brings with it a special sorrow. Making this mournful period even more stressful is that fact that the owner is immediately faced with the decision of what to do with the remains of the loyal friend. While a pet cemetery can be a viable option, costs can range from $500 with a simple plastic casket and stone marker or more elaborate burial packages of $2000 or more, which may not be within the budget of most pet owners. A veterinarian’s office can dispose of the remains for a nominal cost but such a choice may seem cold hearted. For most people, a simple backyard burial or cremation remain the only viable alternatives, but which one is the best choice?

BURIAL

PROS – Given the necessity to quickly provide a final resting place for a treasured pet, burial on or near the owner’s property is the most popular choice made by pet owners.

Not only is this method relatively inexpensive, but it can also provide the grieving owner with comforting closure in knowing that the pet has received a final resting place near their home. The addition of a memorial stone, engraved marker, or wind chime on or near the pet’s grave adds a lasting remembrance and memorial to the beloved pet.

CONS – Unless you live in a rural area, local city laws and/or home associations may limit or even bar pet burials on an owner’s property. Even if burial is allowed, special care must be taken, not only to prepare a hole deep enough to discourage scavengers, but also in cases of large pets, to use a proper container so as to prevent a depression in the grave once decomposition begins.

CREMATION

PROS – When the cremation option is chosen, the grieving owner is spared the grief of handling the remains, checking the local laws regarding pet burial, and digging the plot. (This would be a particular advantage during the winter months.) Most veterinarians will be able to either handle the cremations themselves or make arrangements to have the procedure performed elsewhere. The ashes can either be kept in an urn next to a framed picture of the beloved pet or scattered in a yard that the animal loved to play in. If so desired, a small portion of the ashes can even be put into a tasteful piece of memorial cremation jewelry.

CONS – Depending on the size of the animal, the costs of “Private” pet cremation (one pet only, rather than communal) may range from $75.00 to $400.00, depending on the size of the animal. Some crematories may charge extra fees for services performed after hours and on weekends. There may also be some laws in the owner’s town that may limit the scattering of the ashes.

The choice between a yard burial and cremation is not an easy one for a pet owner to make. While the factors of cost and convenience should be considered, ultimately it will be the heart of the pet owner which will decide upon the final resting place for their lost companion.

For additional information on pet memorials, contact Heart to Heart Sympathy Gifts, an online sympathy and memorial gift store that offers gifts of remembrance.

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Feb 05, 2012 | 0 | Grief, Losing Your Dog

How to Cope With the Loss of Your Pet

By Rochelle Holloman

You

lose your best friend and your feelings are all in disarray. You wonder how to handle not having your companion there with you. This is not an easy thing to do. You will grieve deeply. You may feel that this will not happen to you, but when it does the whole picture suddenly changes. Many individuals and/or families have a strong bond with their pet. They treat them as a member of the family. They groom them, take them for doctors visits, they get immunizations and treatments, and also take their pets on trips or vacations. So, you can see why it is difficult to lose a pet when your daily life revolves around caring for it. Trying to get past the lost will be challenging.

In order to alleviate some of the sorrow after the death of a pet, you may wish to do one of the following to help cope with your lose.

- If you pet was cremated, you may take the remains home in an urn.
- If not cremated, you want a gravesite and stone for your pet.
- Another way is the veterinarian may offer to dispose of the remains for you.

After proper disposal of your pet, you may still want some closure:

Here are a few helpful things to assist you in coping and getting closure:

1. Remember the happy times you and your pet shared. Know that you did all you could do to help your pet if he was stricken with an illness or accidentally died.
2. If you have a special photo of your pet sometimes this will help with the lose
3. Talking with others about your pet will help alleviate the grieving process immensely
4. You can never replace your pet, but sometimes if you get another pet you may love it even more and care for it as well
5. You may want to make a donation to a pet organization or charity or animal shelter
6. You may want to keep their tags as a keepsake
7. You can also join a rescue animal organization
8. If you choose not to have any reminders of your pet, that is okay too. It’s simply up to you on deciding how you will handle the situation.

No matter what type of pet you may have lost, the grieving process is there. It can be mild or severe in nature. Sometimes counseling is your only outlet. If that helps by all means seek counseling and try to get your life back on track.

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Aug 16, 2011 | 0 | Losing Your Dog

GPS For Pets – Find Your Pet Now!

By Adam Websters

Pets are a very common happening in each and every household these days. People keep them just like their children. They feed them well, and they are a great source of company too. You can play with them and while away your time. Many people even love dressing their pets up. Thus, they are just like your kids and slowly, you get very attached to them as even they do the same, and take on that mutual liking towards you.

So do you not think that if your pet gets lost somewhere, you will be extremely depressed? They are very frisky and tend to run around a lot. You cannot even keep them locked up all the time because they need to be let free and loose at least for some time during the day.

If you are the park with your pet and it runs away from you because of some reason, then what are you going to do? You can try your best to locate it, but will you not be very sad if you cannot find him or her? In such cases, do you not wish that there was some way by which you could track down the whereabouts of your pet in an instant?

There is a solution to all your problems because people have come up with this new invention which is a pet GPS tracking device. You can easily attach these on the collars of your pets and after you do that, you will know exactly where your pet is. Isn’t this exciting?

With the help of this, you can let your pet roam around freely within an area without having to wonder where it is because if it does go too far away, then you will know exactly where it is with the help of this device. Such a GPS for pets is very common and is very affordable too. You can easily buy them over the internet and in many places and pet stores; they are even kind enough to exchange your GP’s if it is not working properly.

There is also such a GPS for dogs which is mostly fitted in their collars and comes in a number of styles and colors. It is not very heavy and does not make your dog feel as if he is wearing something external that will hamper his movement. So what are you waiting for?

You should instantly go and purchase this GPS tracking system because with this, you will never lose your pet as within a matter of some mere minutes you can easily find out where it is and bring it back home happily and safely.

Losing your pet can be traumatic. Preventing your pet from being lost is not difficult or expensive. Actually it is very affordable. Love My Pets GPS offers an affordable solution. The GPS for Pets is affordable and gives real peace of mind. Never before has a GPS For Dogs been available for only $129.95. The GPS unit includes a reflective, glow-in-the-dark dog collar – Free!

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Jul 02, 2010 | 2 | Losing Your Dog, Tips

Planning a Pet Funeral

By Jason Gibson Parsons

Losing a pet can be just as saddening as losing a loved one. Especially if you had owned the pet for a long period of time, and if the pet was like a family member. If you are having a hard time dealing with the loss of your pet, you may want to have a funeral. A funeral will be a great way to remember the life of your pet and share it with your friends and family. Planning a pet funeral can be done quickly and easily, you just have to make a few arrangements and decisions.

First you need to decide what you are going to do with your deceased pet. If you are planning on burying them in your yard or on a piece of property, you have to make sure that you are able to do so by law. You may live in a zoning area that prevents this from happening. You also need to decide if you want to your pet cremated or maybe even stuffed. If you are going to have them cremated you want to get a special container for the ashes. They may have different ones for you to choose from. Once you have decided how you are going to lay the pet to rest, make the funeral arrangements.

You can do the funeral at the place of burial, or have a remembrance ceremony. You can place a picture of the animal on a centerpiece, with other pictures and candles around it. Then invite everyone that you want to share your pets memory with. You can do this outside, indoors, or anywhere that you want. You want to make it in a convenient location for a better turn out of guests.

Other people may even have stories that they want to share about your pet. You can have a time for speaking and also a certain time that their will be a vigil or prayer. Everyone morns in their own way, so how you want to grieve the loss of you pet is up to you. A pet funeral is a great way to show your respect and say goodbye.

Share the memory of your pet with Cat Urns and we have a huge selection to choose from including Pet Urns. It is important for us to remember our pets who brought so much love to our lives, and loved us unconditionally.

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May 10, 2010 | 0 | Losing Your Dog, Older dogs

Bach Flower Remedies For Recovering From Pet Loss

By Amit Karkare

Losing a pet is not only the loss of a dear friend, but also often the loss of a major source of unconditional love and affection. We get so attached to our pets that when they are no longer with us, the impact of their love and friendship still remain in our hearts. When we are unable to let go of the intense emotions around the loss of our pets and get stuck in thoughts of the past, unable to accept the present, then it is a good time for us to try flower remedies.

Bach Flower Remedies are 38 plant and flower based remedies developed by British physician Dr. Edward Bach in the 1930s that can help you to manage the emotional demands of life. Losing a loved one often begins a prolonged state of grief and despondency. There are specific Bach Flower remedies that can help with the emotions associated with grief and loss. Each remedy represents a particular emotional archetype, like fear, sadness, guilt, despondency, etc.

Recognizing exactly how you feel is the key to choosing the most appropriate Bach Flower Remedy. Sometimes this can be tricky, as our mental and emotional states can be a mixture of many emotions which might require a combination of corresponding flower remedies. The emotional states described below are ones common in pet owners after the loss of pet.

There are some remedies that are also safe to give to any co-pets, since they too are probably experiencing grief – Rescue Remedy, which is a blend of essences and Walnut. If you’re having a hard time pinpointing which of your emotions should be addressed first, ask a friend to help you sort through them.

Here are few commonly prescribed remedies for healing and loss, and their key-indicators:

STAR OF BETHLEHEM: For recovering from SHOCK, if the loss was sudden and unexpected. Also helps animals who have suffered traumas or abuse.

WALNUT: If you’re having a hard time ADAPTING to the loss, walnut works as a “LINK-BREAKER” to help you to let go and release your pet. Walnut is also safe for your other pets who may be grieving.

PINE: For getting over the ‘GUILTY FEELING’, if you are struggling with euthanasia, or having had to make a very difficult decision to let your pet go.

GORSE: For the feeling of HOPELESSNESS especially when you feel discouragement, darkness and resignation. Gorse brings deep and abiding faith and hope; equanimity and light-filled optimism.

SWEET CHESTNUT: In extreme cases of LOSS OF HOPE where nothing rejuvenates the mind and darkness overshadows ones life. Brings deep courage and faith in life.

HONEY SUCKLE: When our mind escapes the present, CLINGS TO THE PAST, and longs for what was. Helps one to learn from the past while releasing it.

WHITE CHESTNUT: If particular THOUGHTS / DREAMS of your lost pet repeat frequently, almost making you feel imprisoned. This will bring inner calm and a quiet, clear mind.

ASPEN: For any unexpected surges of ANXIETY that you may be feeling about the health of your other pets, in spite of their good health. Brings trust and confidence to deal with unknowns.

How to take them:

You can add 3-4 drops of the corresponding remedy to a glass of water. Sip frequently until the emotional state resolves to a more manageable intensity. In the case of a combination of dominant emotions, add 2 drops of each applicable essence.

Dr. Amit Karkare practices as a Homoeopath and Veterinary Bach Flower Therapist – also serving as a Grief Counselor. Know more about his services at: http://www.dramitkarkare.com/pet_care.html.

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Sep 17, 2009 | 0 | Losing Your Dog